Imperfect Loving Friendships

Love is a pervasive energy that is far more powerful than fear, hate, pain or anger.  We all can access the energy of love instantly. It cannot be withheld or controlled. What we recognize as “love” grows as we learn to give it more freely and receive it more gratefully.  Love is what keeps our heart beating and our soul thriving. This powerful energy is so pervasive that we never need to take love from anyone else. Love is energy....

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Friendship in the Face of Death

I know, I know…who the heck wants to talk about death. After all, we’re here and alive. Let’s embrace what we have in front of us, right. But life sometimes throws us curveballs. Those of us privileged enough to live a longer life are going to, at some point, have to deal with death. Even in friendship. In October of 2015, I lost my best friend of 40 years to breast cancer. Sandy had her faults, just like I did, and still...

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You can become the center of attraction in the online dating website by following certain ethics

The match-making sites and the online dating apps have made it easy for both the men and women to find the partner. Earlier the relationships and marriages were facilitated by either the family members or friends or at work place and the circle were limited, but with the development of these online dating apps the chances of meeting many people are possible. The two major advantages of the dating app are that, one can choose a partner...

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How to Identify Your Romantic Archetype & Love Language

          You might not realize it, but you have a romantic blueprint. We all do. It’s one of five romantic archetypes. You might be the Madonna type who’s all about loving and giving. Or, you could be the opposite, the Tom Boy, who is more about loyalty and trust.         In order to live your most romantic life, you need to identify which romantic archetype you are and which love language you speak. You might relate...

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Place and Friendship

When I moved from Washington state to California with a six week warning, among the hardest people to tell were my closest friends. We’d come of age side by side. They were there when I struggled with sadness, when I drank too much, when I met and married my husband, when I birthed my babies. They listened when I changed my mind, when I got lost, when I found meaning.  I couldn’t say the words aloud, so I wrote it in a card that I...

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Friendship, Love and Sex

“The first natural and lasting human connection is Love and Friendship. Sex comes last.” -Ashok Thakur I have been asked many times how I make, and keep, amazing, conscious, and beautiful friends despite our disparate ages, cultural backgrounds and life styles. The answer is simple. I am not judgmental. I am trustworthy. People feel very comfortable confiding in me. I always think about what I can contribute to the friendship...

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Ode to the Troubadours

A wicked yet scintillating feeling would strike deep in our guts the moment we would meet between a pair of particularly boring high school classes and make the split second decision to ditch for the remainder of the afternoon. The four of us would inexplicably look at the backpack with the notebook waiting to be filled with poetry elegantly draped around Vanessa’s shoulder. Then the hippie fringe knapsack haughtily held in Shana’s...

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On the Wild West

Growing up in the 80s in urban America, it was almost a pop culture-induced mannerism to follow the word “friends” with the question, “how many of us have them?” The ubiquitous Whodini rap song questioned the meaning of friendship in ways the inner-city of the time could relate. From the casual hangs of growing up with the homeboys, to dating and breaking up, the song almost implied that friendship has a much more inferred meaning...

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Friendship Opens a World Beyond the Visible

My friend Pat and I have an agreement about our friendship: we don’t need to attend the other’s funeral, because we’ve agreed to be here for each other during our lifetime.Pat and I first met when I was a senior in college, and she was already mid-career with two grown children who were starting to raise families. Pat’s position at the State Health Department was nearly unpronounceable to me. She was an...

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HAPPIER EVER AFTER: HOW CONNECTION ENRICHES OUR LIVES

It literally starts when a word or phrase pops into my head, although I’m sure sometimes it’s motivated by something I’ve seen or read. It has served me well since I like to post an original quote daily. As it turns out, it’s surprising how it’s exactly what I need to hear on that particular day. I always feel like I’m doing it as a way to connect with people, and it’s usually not until later in the day that I understand how...

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Falling in Love & Friendship

When we think about falling in love, we don’t typically associate it with friendship. The term ‘falling in love’ conjures for most of us images of moonlight walks, bouquets of flowers perhaps even an intimate embrace in front of the eiffel tower (I know cheesy). Actually that’s not really what it conjures for me in a romantic encounter sense. I’m thinking more deep conversations, emotional vulnerability, spiritual connection and lots...

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Having Alpha Females as your Best Friends

When making friends with other women there are an array of personalities you can encounter. There are many characters with distinct traits that tend to gravitate towards you. If we were to narrow it down into simple “animalistic” terms we have the Alpha, the Beta and the Omega female. Ever since I was a child I have always attracted the Alpha female as my best-friend. The Alpha female is often more intimidating to others. She is...

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